Saudi artist Mohammad Alfaraj discusses the ‘poet of visuals’ 

Mohammed AlFaraj with his work 'From What Bone Will We Grow Back On the First Day of Eternity.' (Supplied)
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Updated 18 October 2024
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Saudi artist Mohammad Alfaraj discusses the ‘poet of visuals’ 

  • The Saudi artist discusses his work that is currently on display at Art Basel Paris 

PARIS: Mohammad Alfaraj was born in the world’s largest desert oasis — Al-Ahsa — in the Eastern Province of Saudi Arabia. He is the son and grandson of date farmers.  

The 31-year-old artist was one of the participating artists in the AlUla Artist Residency in 2021, and is now showing the results of that residency for the first time as part of the “Orbis Tertius” exhibition at the Art Basel Paris international art fair, which opened Oct. 18 in Paris’ newly restored Grand Palais.  

He describes himself as “an artist and a poet — a poet of visuals.” 

“I was talking with one of the other AlUla Residency artists about this, and we agreed that both of us try to encapsulate poems and poetry into objects, poems that you can hold, and touch and feel, and smell,” Alfaraj tells Arab News. 




A still from Alfaraj's 'The Date Fruit of Knowledge.' (Supplied)

His route to becoming an artist wasn’t a straightforward one. He studied Applied Mechanical Engineering at King Fahad University of Petroleum and Minerals in Dhahran. “When I began my studies in 2011, there wasn’t much focus on filmmaking or photography in Saudi, and they were what interested me. But it was beautiful, because understanding how things work and how to build them is a relevant subject for a curious mind. One of my favorite courses was Mechanics of Materials. I learned that everything is alive, even inanimate objects emit a vibration, an energy. I wanted to complete my degree, but also to pursue my career as an artist,” he explains.  

His agricultural background has also inspired his work. 

“Growing up on a farm, it’s deeply ingrained to reuse everything we find around us,” he says. “We don’t call it ecology, we call it resources; there is no waste, no excess, nothing gets thrown away. A bird builds its nest from the things it finds lying around, bits of straw, bits of plastic. I call that ‘honestly built.’” 




'The Last Words of a Tree 2,' currently on show at Art Basel Paris. (Supplied)

A bird is the central focus of one of Alfaraj’s Art Basel installations, “The Date Fruit of Knowledge.” The stop-motion film, with narration over the top, was drawn in the sand of the palm groves of AlUla.  

“It’s the story of a little nightingale who’s trying to get all the knowledge of the world. He’s impatient; he wants everything immediately. Someone tells him the legend, ‘Each palm tree produces one date that holds all the knowledge of the world.’ So he finds a palm tree and eats every single date that it produces to hit that one date. He becomes obsessed, he wants to stop, but he cannot, he’s driven by that greed for knowledge,” Alfaraj says. 

“Finally — finally — he finds the date! And he knows everything, what is, what was, what will be. The problem is, when he knows everything, he knows everything — the good things he cannot enjoy, and the horrific things he cannot change — so this blessing becomes a curse. So the film is about this idea of getting things slowly, with time, and really experiencing the journey of life rather than instantly reaching your destination. Of course, it’s inspired by stories from the Qur’an, religious parables, folklore and mythologies around the world, so everybody can connect with it in some way,” he adds. “The ‘nightingale’ in the film is made out of dates, and he eats so many dates he almost dies. What I want to say by this is that our destruction could be by our own hands, but our salvation could be by our own hands too.”   




Untitled 4, Mohammed Alfaraj, 2023. (Supplied)

The film is presented at Art Basel against a backdrop of Alfaraj’s illustrations, and palm fronds are placed in front of the screen in the shape of a bird’s wings.  

“The paper (for the illustrations) is made from waste palm, the ink is also made from palm leaves, so the whole work is made from things that are normally discarded,” Alfaraj explains. “I like finding objects, collecting them and turning them into sculpture, or finding photographs and landscapes of places I visit and making them into something new. I think that’s awesome — finding, finding and then transforming.”  

Alfaraj still lives in the place he was born, which remains a constant source of inspiration. Last year, he built himself a home on a farm there.  




An installation shot of 'Hand,' from the 'Fossils of Time' series, Mohammed Alfaraj. (Supplied)

“It’s just a simple rectangle with a bedroom and kitchen and a studio where I work. It has a garden with date palms, mulberry trees, fig and lemon trees. I have a couple of chickens too, now.”  

When he travels abroad, he keeps his carbon footprint as low as possible, even if that means staying away from home for months at a time.  

Since the beginning of this year, he has been preparing his next exhibition in Dubai in parallel to Art Basel. He says he told his curator that he wants to be known as “an anti-SS” artist. 




 Mohammed AlFaraj with his work 'From What Bone Will We Grow Back On the First Day of Eternity.' (Supplied)

“It’s a play on words, which I always like. It means I am anti-style and anti-scale, because style and scale do not the drive the work, they are just the façade. The driver of the work should be the heart and the soul — and modesty too, humility. If the work requires a large scale, I’m happy to do that. But there is no reason to make it an objective to itself.” 

Another of his Art Basel installations — from his “Last Words of a Tree” series — is titled “From What Bone Will We Grow Back On the First Day of Eternity?”  

“I’ve used a certain part of a palm tree to make a sculpture that looks like bones, or a fossil, of a creature emerging from the earth,” he says. “I try to believe that with so much sacrifice going on, something great will happen, and hopefully, human glory will emerge; the evil and prejudices eradicated. So, I hope this work serves as an acknowledgement of everything that’s happening, but also contains a certain hope.” 


Riyadh Fashion Week celebrates style and empowerment

Updated 18 October 2024
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Riyadh Fashion Week celebrates style and empowerment

  • Top labels include Adnan Akbar, Dar Al-Hanouf, Tima Abid, Honayda
  • Creatives explore nature, music and culture at the second Riyadh show

RIYADH: The second Riyadh Fashion Week began here on Thursday night showcasing the creativity and talent of four distinguished Saudi Arabia labels: Adnan Akbar, Dar Al-Hanouf, Tima Abid and Honayda.

This year’s event, which ends on Oct. 21, highlights emerging trends and is a platform for cultural expression and empowerment through fashion.

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One of the standout presentations was by Abid, whose collection was inspired by her private garden.

The show featured a striking palette of black, white and red, reflecting her surroundings. “These pieces today were inspired by the Tima Garden.

“People might think it’s a poor garden, lacking in color, but I see it as very rich because of the care and attention I give it,” she told Arab News.

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Abid’s designs are characterized by strong lines and bold shapes, mirroring her admiration for confident women.

She explained her approach to incorporating floral elements into her work: “I entered the world of flowers very shyly because it’s not my usual design aesthetic. I love strong designs and wanted to create something that suits my vision while paying homage to nature.”

Looking ahead, she hinted at the possibility of green grass in her garden next year, and with it, new inspiration.

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Another highlight of the evening was Honayda’s show, which focused on women’s empowerment, intertwining elements of Saudi Arabia’s culture with the influence of iconic female musicians from the Arab world.

Titled “Divas in Harmony,” this collection pays tribute to legendary singers including Umm Kulthum and Fairuz, showcasing how music and fashion can create a powerful narrative.

Honayda said: “This time, I wanted to empower women through fashion by shedding light on the divas of music.”

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Her collection also reflects on the burgeoning Saudi Arabia music scene. “With the renaissance happening here in Saudi Arabia, with all the up-and-coming Saudi singers, it just makes my heart happy.

“We’re doing what we should do, and I’m thrilled with the success of this fashion show.”

Her designs encapsulate a blend of traditional and contemporary styles, making a bold statement about the role of women in both fashion and society.

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The designer featured some remarkable faces in her fashion show, including Egyptian actress Nelly Kareem, and Jasmin “Golden Barbie” Sanders, who shared her excitement about performing in Saudi Arabia for the first time.

The designer featured some remarkable faces in her fashion show, including Egyptian actress Nelly Kareem. (AN/ Huda Bashatah)

“It’s my first time here in Saudi Arabia, and it has been absolutely magical. I’ve had an incredible experience in the 24 hours I’ve been here. Honestly, I wish I could stay longer; this show was truly beautiful,” said Sanders.

“Being an empowering woman and uplifting other women by participating in this show has been a blessing. Walking alongside all these amazing women is an honor.”


Recipes for Success: Chef Robert Stevens offers advice and a roasted cauliflower recipe

Updated 18 October 2024
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Recipes for Success: Chef Robert Stevens offers advice and a roasted cauliflower recipe

DUBAI: Dubai’s The Nice Guy, the first international outpost of the West Hollywood Italian restaurant known for its “no photos” policy, is a dream-come-true assignment for its head chef, Robert Stevens. 

“My favorite thing about (the job) is for sure the team,” he tells Arab News. “Teamwork makes the dream work. The venue is so beautiful. I love the feeling of walking into the restaurant when the live band is playing and the restaurant is full.” 

Stevens’ introduction to the restaurant industry came in his home country of Finland after he graduated with a culinary diploma from the Turku Vocational Institute.  

Dubai’s The Nice Guy is the first international outpost of the West Hollywood Italian restaurant known for its “no photos” policy. (Supplied)

“My first inspiration to become a chef was foraging and fishing in Finland’s beautiful nature,” he says. 

Here, Stevens talks teamwork, seasoning, and Korean cuisine. 

When you started out what was the most common mistake you made? 

Not properly seasoning my dishes. I often relied too heavily on the final seasoning at the end of cooking instead of adjusting flavors throughout the process. I learned the importance of layering flavors, tasting as I go, and understanding how seasoning interacts with different ingredients. 

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What’s your top tip for amateur chefs? 

Embrace the process and don’t be afraid of making mistakes. Cooking is about experimentation, so if you forget an ingredient or something doesn’t turn out as expected, view it as a learning opportunity. 

What one ingredient can instantly improve any dish?  

Salt. It enhances the natural flavors of ingredients, balances sweetness, and can even elevate textures. 

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What’s the most common mistake/issue that you find in other restaurants? 

A lack of balance in flavors — dishes can be either over-salted or under-seasoned. And inattentive service always detracts from the overall experience. 

What’s your favorite cuisine? 

Korean. I love it for its emphasis on fermentation, which not only adds depth of flavor but also leaves you feeling light and refreshed. The balance of spicy, savory, and umami flavors in dishes like kimchi jjigai and bibimbap is so satisfying. 

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What’s your favorite dish to cook? 

I don’t have a specific favorite dish — I’m inspired by the seasonal produce available. Cooking with fresh, in-season ingredients allows me to create vibrant, flavorful meals that highlight the best of what each season has to offer. 

What’s the most difficult dish for you to get right? 

Risotto is the most difficult. We have a butternut squash risotto on our new brunch menu. Achieving the perfect creamy texture while ensuring the rice is cooked just right can be challenging. It requires constant attention and a delicate balance of adding stock gradually. Despite its simplicity, timing and technique make it a dish that demands focus and precision.  

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What are you like as a head chef? Are you a disciplinarian? Or are you more laid back? 

I lean towards a more laidback style. Having worked in many high-paced kitchens, I prioritize teamwork and trust in my staff. I also emphasize support for mental health, recognizing that hospitality can be a really tough industry. It’s essential for my team to know they have support when they’re feeling down, creating an environment where everyone can thrive. 

CHEF ROBERT’S ROASTED CAULIFLOWER WITH ALMOND AND BROWN BUTTER BURNED LEEK 

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Ingredients per plate: 
-120g roasted cauliflower 
-20gr Butter 
-10 gr Cauliflower shavings 
-2gr Salt 
-1gr Pepper 
-10gr Burned leeks 
-10gr Truffle oil 
-1 portion Almond brown butter puree 
-Mustard cress to garnish 

Plating 
1) Sautee the roasted cauliflower in frying pan until golden. 
2) Baste cauliflower with butter and truffle oil. 
3) Heat up almond brown butter puree. 
4) One table spoon of puree into the plate. 
5) Pile cauliflower on top. 
6) Garnish with shave cauliflower, burned leeks and mustard cress. 
7) Season with Maldon salt and few drops of truffle oil. 

Sub recipes: 
Almond and brown butter puree (2 portion) 
-120gr butter 
-350gr cauliflower 
-150 gr peeled almonds (soaked) 
-60 gr shallots 
-6gr garlic 
-salt to taste 
-100gr vegetable stock 

Method: 
1) Soak almonds overnight in water. 
2) Cook butter until brown and skim off milk. 
3) Cook cauliflower in salted boiling water until soft. 
4) Sweat shallots and garlic in the brown butter until soft. 
5) Blend all ingredients until very smooth. Use pacojet if available. 
6) Season with salt and pepper. 

Burned leeks 
1) Cut the white part of the leeks into 10cm-long pieces and slice into half. 
2) Cook in oven at 250 C until completely burned. 

Roasted cauliflower 
1) Cut cauliflower into half. 
2) Seasoned with salt, pepper, olive oil and thyme . Add 50 ml vegetable stock into container. 
3) Cook in the oven at 180 C covered with aluminum foil for 25 min. 
4) Uncover cauliflower and raise temperature to 220C cook for 15 min until it starts to caramelized and the cauliflower is cooked. 


Best and Worst: Taleedah Tamer talks style, holidays and good and bad advice

Updated 18 October 2024
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Best and Worst: Taleedah Tamer talks style, holidays and good and bad advice

DUBAI: The Saudi-Italian model talks style, holidays and good and bad advice. 

Best TV show or film you’ve ever seen?    

I’m definitely a “Game of Thrones” fan. I’ve rewatched it more than five times. I love it. I also love “White Lotus.” I think that is a great show. I would say my favorite movie is “City of God.” 

Worst TV show/film you’ve ever seen?  

That’s a tough one. I would say “The Idol.” It’s not a good show, but it is, like, so bad that you want to watch more of it.  

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Best personal style moment so far?    

I’m the kind of person that dresses for comfort. That’s my number one priority. So whenever I dress up, for, like, a wedding or for an event, it feels special. I think those are my best outfit moments. I wore a really beautiful, blue gown to my uncle’s wedding, and I felt very myself, you know? Very fairy. I really loved it.  

Worst personal style moment?    

I was a very nerdy looking kid. I used to wear massive pink aviator velvet glasses. Even though I respect my younger self for going for it, that wasn’t a cute look.  

Best accessory for a little black dress?    

It depends on what you’re going for. But, I think, even if I am going for something a bit more casual, a little black bag would be perfect.  

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Worst accessory for a little black dress?    

The opposite: A big bag. I don’t see that working for me. But, again, it just depends on what you’re going for. 

Best fashion trend of 2024?    

I love how we’ve started to normalize mixing different wears together. Like, mixing elegant with casual. Some people like to mix formal wear with street style; I think that’s one of my favorite things I’ve seen. I really enjoy it. It gives people liberty to express themselves. 

Worst fashion trend of 2024?    

I do not enjoy chunky shoes. I might have enjoyed them when it first started, but they’re just not very wearable at the end of the day. That’s one trend that I don’t enjoy anymore.  

Best advice you’ve ever been given?   

Treat others the way you want to be treated. That’s stayed with me my whole life. And, recently, something that I really appreciated that I heard in a movie was: “It’s better to regret doing something than to regret doing nothing.” I think that’s really true!  

Worst advice you’ve ever been given? 

That you’re better off doing something yourself, by yourself. I feel like learning or asking for help is a really important skill to have. Like, you don’t have to do anything on your own. It’s a sign of courage to ask for help as well, and it shows that you want to learn.  

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Best book you’ve ever read?    

“The Prophet” by Khalil Gibran. The second I read it, I knew it would not be the last time I read it. The book is so beautiful in the original language. It was written in Arabic, and it has been translated. The translation is also really good. I love that book. I think there’s so much to be learned from it. I didn’t want it to end. It was the type of book that puts you in a good mental state and I just wanted to be in that mental state for as long as possible. 

Worst book you’ve ever read?   

I remember as a kid reading really bad horror books. I would, like, cringe while reading. So yeah, I would say really cheesy horror books.  

Best thing to do when you’re feeling low?   

Well, you have things that help you in the moment and things that will help you in the long term. When I’m feeling down, I’ve realized that meditating and reflecting is the thing that will help me get out of that state. But in the moment, to distract myself, just blasting music would help me to block things out. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Worst thing to do when you’re feeling good?    

Taking things for granted and not being grateful for being in that place and trying to maintain that state of mind. It’s like your health; when you’re sick, you cannot wait to feel better, and when you do, you don’t appreciate your health. 

Best holiday destination?    

If I want to relax, then anywhere by the sea. I also love Japan. And I thought Mauritius was a beautiful place because they have a lot of cultures there. Generally, though, it has to be somewhere really sunny, because I cannot stand the cold. 

Worst holiday destination?    

Anywhere that’s polluted. It’s just not enjoyable. 

Best subject at school?    

Languages. I was really good at my English classes and my Arabic classes. I also really loved — and I really excelled in — psychology. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Worst subject at school?    

To be honest, I enjoyed studying a lot; it was something that my parents instilled in me from when I was really young. So I didn’t really have a very bad subject, but my weakest would probably be math.  

Best thing to do to ensure you have a productive day?   

Plan ahead the night before. Have some idea of what you want to get doneAnd also, start your day right. Meditating or working out just starts off your day on a high note. I’ve realized that even if the other half of my day is not as good as the start, it still feels like a productive day.  

Worst thing to do when you’re trying to have a productive day?  

Doom scrolling is the worst. That’s a killer of productivity.    


Winter Wonders: Not-to-be-missed events in Saudi Arabia

Updated 17 October 2024
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Winter Wonders: Not-to-be-missed events in Saudi Arabia

JEDDAH: With the Kingdom’s entertainment season in full swing as the weather cools, here are some of the not-to-be-missed events coming your way before the end of the year 

Soundstorm 

The Middle East’s biggest music festival returns to Banban, Riyadh from Dec. 12 to 14. The lineup is mostly focused on electronic dance music again, but headliners include UK rock band Muse , who, over the course of their 25-year career, have repeatedly been hailed as one of the world’s best live bands by critics and fans alike; rap legend Eminem; and the hugely influential alternative hip-hop pioneer Tyler, the Creator. Other big names on this year’s roster include Jared Leto’s band Thirty Seconds to Mars; Dutch DJ Armin Van Buuren; the ubiquitous David Guetta; and EDM superstar Steve Aoki. As always, there will be significant representation from regional and local artists getting the opportunity to showcase their skills too. 

Red Sea International Film Festival 

Stars of the silver screen will descend on Jeddah from Dec. 5 to 14 for what has — in just three previous editions — become the region’s most significant film festival. Only a few details have yet been announced about this year’s lineup, beyond the addition of the “New Saudi, New Cinema” program — which features 21 shorts created by Saudi filmmakers addressing “themes from cultural identity and modern societal topics to personal victories” — and the 15 short films that will make up the Arab Shorts Competition. Based on previous years, though, expect an eclectic roster encompassing arthouse movies, box-office beasts and Oscar contender, attended by a diverse audience of global celebrities. 

Gwyneth Paltrow at the closing ceremony of RSIFF 2023. (AFP)

Ancient Kingdoms Festival  

From Nov. 7 to 30, AlUla plays host to the Ancient Kingdoms Festival, a “program of special events showcasing 7,000 years of human history.” This year’s edition includes an exhibition of treasures from Pompeii and Herculaneum — both buried under the volcanic ash caused by the eruption of Mount Vesuvius in 79 CE, leaving incredibly well-preserved relics of Roman life. AlUla’s Old Town is the site of one of the highlights: The Incense Road Experience, billed as an “immersive adventure through a historic maze of mudbrick buildings as live performances and state-of-the-art technology meet interactive storytelling and exclusive explorations of archaeological treasures.” The hugely popular “immersive night-time summit” Hegra After Dark is back too.  

Elie Saab 

The groundbreaking and hugely influential Lebanese fashion designer will stage “1001 Seasons” at The Venue in Riyadh on Nov. 13 — a fashion show that will showcase his latest collection, but also include live performances. Saudi Arabia has been a hugely significant market for Saab throughout his career, and “1001 Seasons” will likely include some tributes to the Kingdom in both Saab’s designs and the accompanying entertainment. Earlier this year, Saab said he planned to create “something unprecedented and new to celebrate the important occasion in Riyadh, a city that supports creativity and cultural diversity in the region.” The show is part of Riyadh Season, which began last week and includes a host of other major events in the Kingdom’s capital. 

Elie Saab will stage “1001 Seasons” at The Venue in Riyadh. (AFP)

Boris Brejcha 

The prolific German DJ and producer will be performing at Onyx Arena in Jeddah on Oct. 31. Brejcha has both a signature sound (which he calls “high-tech minimal” — his own take on house music) and a signature look (a Carnival of Venice-style joker mask) and has established himself firmly among the world’s top DJs with a regular stream of releases and albums over his 17-year career.  

Stephan Bodzin 

The veteran German DJ and producer performs in the Kingdom for the first time on Nov. 1 in Riyadh’s Jax District. Bodzin is a classically trained musician who fell in love with electronic music — due in no small part to the fact that his father was an experimental musician — but only started DJing full time aged 36. His live shows have been widely acclaimed, often embracing his love of collaboration, so expect the unexpected in Riyadh. 

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‘Love match’ apps rival traditional matchmaking in Pakistan

Updated 17 October 2024
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‘Love match’ apps rival traditional matchmaking in Pakistan

  • Marriage apps describe themselves as ‘halal,’ offering options to blur profile pictures for privacy
  • Some users say people lie about their details on apps while using fake names and photos themselves

RAWALPINDI: Pakistan’s traditional matchmakers play a revered role in molding daughters into potential brides, but marriage apps marketing themselves as halal are offering women a new route to finding a husband.
“When I saw my colleague happy after being married to someone she met online... I thought, since we have tried rishta aunties for four or five years, let’s try this too,” Ezza Nawaz, a textile designer in Lahore, told AFP.
Rishta aunties – or traditional matchmakers – polish up women and present them to the families of potential suitors, in a country where dating is considered dishonorable.
But in the last few years, marriage apps for Muslims have emerged in Pakistan promising so-called “love matches.”
Some offer a “chaperone” option – which provides a weekly transcript of sent and received messages to a chosen relative, satisfying families wary of their son or daughter connecting with strangers.
For Ezza, it was a success: just three months after meeting Waseem Akhtar on Muzz, she was married.
“We went on a couple of dates before we got our family involved. We took our time,” she said.

In this photograph taken on September 7, 2024, visitors sit in a stall during an event organised by the Wedding Planning Services, in Islamabad. (AFP)

More than 80 percent of Pakistanis have arranged marriages, according to a survey by Gallup and Gilani Pakistan, where families decide the union, sometimes settling an engagement without the bride and the groom even meeting.
Parents enlist the help of professional rishta aunties to help find a suitable family, with the first impression often based on how the young woman looks as she pours tea for her potential in-laws.
The app, however, says 1.2 million Pakistanis have signed up since it launched last year with an advertising campaign in major cities, and 15,000 people have already married.
Marriage apps describe themselves as “halal,” or permissible in Islam, offering options to blur profile pictures for privacy and making clear the purpose is to reach a proposal.

In this photograph taken on September 4, 2024, wedding pictures are displayed outside a marriage bureau office, in Rawalpindi. (AFP)


But they continue to battle a stigma linking them to casual dating apps such as Tinder, which has been banned in Pakistan for being “immoral.”
“I do not tell people how I met my wife until I am sure that the person would not judge us,” said Waseem.
Marriage is viewed as a coming together of two families in Pakistan, where many live in multigenerational households.
Choosing your husband or wife yourself can be seen as a challenge to the deeply ingrained reverence toward elders and a threat to the traditional family structure.
Rishta aunties are therefore relied upon to find suitors from acceptable families – a process that young women, who are widely expected to marry by the age of 25, can sometimes find demeaning.
“I was asked not to tell the guy’s family that my hobbies are hiking or photography, but are cooking and cleaning... it made me angry,” said Rida Fatima.

In this photograph taken on July 25, 2024, Rida Fatima speaks during an interview with AFP at her residence in Rawalpindi. (AFP)

“They had the audacity to talk about how I looked, what I did, how much I earned, who my family is, how many brothers I have, what are my future aspirations. So, every little thing is judged.”
Fatima was presented with several potential matches through a rishta auntie appointed by her parents, but was asked to pay around $700 for an introductory meeting with a guy.
The rate fluctuates depending on whether the match has a foreign passport, she added.
Eventually, she ditched the process, becoming part of the 18 percent of Pakistanis who have a “love marriage” after meeting her husband by chance.
“No matter how the guy looks, even if he is bald or has a big belly, he wants a wife who looks like a model,” said Muskan Ali, the managing director at a marriage consultancy in Karachi.
Rishta aunties do not feel threatened yet.
Their offices buzz with parents and their children crafting profiles on computers, as matchmakers strive to digitize their businesses with sleek websites and WhatsApp groups for client communication.

In this photograph taken on August 18, 2024, clients visit a marriage matchmaking office for prospective marriage proposals, in Karachi. (AFP)

Consultants teach young women how to walk, talk and dress to best correspond to the wishes of their future in-laws.
Many traditional matchmakers like Fauzia Aazam, the head of a community of rishta aunties in Rawalpindi, reject marriage apps altogether.
“People waste time on these apps,” she said.
“Chatting together all through the night, I just don’t like it.”
For Aisha Sarwari, a feminist author, the matchmaking process is about exercising “control” over daughters-in-law.
“I would say that we need to find a good middle ground, where the respect is equal on both sides and there is no sense of demeaning a human being just because they look a certain way or they are from a particular race,” she told AFP.

In this photograph taken on September 7, 2024, people visit a stall at an event organised by the Wedding Planning Services, in Islamabad. (AFP)

Aneela, a digital media artist, whose name has been changed, tried her best to avoid being poured over by a matchmaker and turned to a marriage app, but found a new set of concerns.
“It is hard being on an app... men lie,” she said, swiping through her profile at a cafe in Islamabad.
She later admitted to using a fake name and pictures on her profile so that men cannot identify her.
“The only option left is to go for an arranged marriage instead.”